How do you rekindle communication and romance?

I don't want the book answers, I want personal experiences. I want my BF to WANT to be romantic with me, and WANT to take me out on dates, or randomly surprise me with doing the dishes or maybe preparing breakfast for me--anything?! We love eachother, but I feel like we are bored, help?! Should I play hard to get? Should I start putting my needs first for a change, I just do not know what works.......I have always been the type of girl to always make other ppl. happy and cater to my guys needs......