Husband driving me bananas! Help?

Our house got out of hand, laundry has piled up, dishes to do, and our bedroom is totally disorganized. It's overwhelming for one person. I ask him to help me on weekends-- we're both to zonked from 12 hour days during the week to do anything but the basics, and he'd rather go out with his friends! Yes, he invites me to go along-- but I'm not into being the only girl in a group of immature frat-like boys. I try to make him understand that that isn't FUN for ME, only HIM. I do go occionally, and I'm not a snot-- I'm friendly. Yet he can't do ANYTHING I like to do, or help me with the house so that I can actually ENJOY my time out instead of stressing about what I have to go home to. I ask him to please compromise w/ me. Yea go out with your friends but be home by 12 and catch a movie with me. He doesn't answer his phone and comes home at 5 am. I don't know what I'm doing wrong in trying to get through to him. It irritates him when I cry and he shuts down if I yell! And if I try to